I like people, but they are so strange sometimes. Something that confounds me is how some folks make so much drama in their lives. Some days it feels like I’m dealing with wave after wave of unreasonable demands and people’s overinflated narratives! Somehow people manage to escalate the most minor problems into harrowing personal crises, or will claim incredible victories over molehills, or will just generally make an ass out of themselves…
Students are great at this. I’ve noticed how some students manage to, week after week have some story of woe that keeps them from turning in their homework, studying for tests, or otherwise doing their schoolwork.*
I would like to start a tradition: No Drama Tuesdays. Don’t create drama, don’t feed drama, and fix problems rationally with as little fanfare as possible.
So here is what I would like to see, on Tuesdays**:
- If it isn’t your problem, mind your own business
- No whining about your own troubles
- No gossiping about other people’s troubles
- Take responsibility for your own problems, quietly and gracefully.
- As much as possible keep your ego out of problems
- If trouble seems likely, think how to avoid it, fix it, or ameliorate it
- Realize that there is no actual pressure on you to be happy, or sad… and no one can actually tell you what to feel.
Is that a deal?
* Yes, I know life interferes in the best made plans. At a certain point, it becomes clear that the only common element in the person’s life drama is the person.
** If this tradition happens on other days of the week, that would be nice too.